My Dad Diane

Producer: Frans Landsman
Release Year: 2005

In 2005, BBC2 aired a groundbreaking documentary titled “My Dad Diane,” produced by Frans Landsman. This intimate portrayal of the Hughes family offered viewers a rare glimpse into the life of a family navigating the complexities of gender identity, love, and societal expectations.

 

At the heart of this documentary is the Hughes family: Caroline, the mother, who has stood by her partner through an extraordinary transition; Diane, formerly Richard, who transitioned from male to female when their son was six years old; and Gareth, their teenage son, who has grown up with a unique family dynamic. The family resides on a small holding in Southern Ireland, where they tend to pigs, chickens, and ducks, embracing a life of self-sufficiency away from the judgmental eyes of society.

 

The documentary delves deep into Diane’s transition journey. As Gareth recounts, “When I was six, my dad became a woman.” This simple statement belies the complex emotional and physical journey that Diane underwent. The film explores the challenges faced by Diane, from the initial stages of cross-dressing to the full gender reassignment surgery and hormone therapy. Diane’s transition is portrayed not just as a personal journey, but as a family affair. Caroline, who met Diane (then Richard) when she was just 16, knew from the start about Richard’s penchant for dressing up. However, it wasn’t until Gareth was six that Richard fully transitioned to Diane.

 

The documentary doesn’t shy away from the challenges faced by the family. Caroline, in particular, struggles with the loss of a traditional male partner. In one poignant moment, she reflects, “Sometimes it feels like I’m locked away now. I do feel sometimes that there’s a lot that’s being missed, but you get used to it.” Gareth, now 15 at the time of filming, provides a unique perspective on growing up with a transgender parent. He states, “I wouldn’t consider my family actually weird. Because it’s… Well, it’s a simple thing really. And I think the people who don’t understand it are weirder than my actual family, you know?” The family faces various forms of social stigma and bullying. Gareth admits to being bullied because of his family situation, but adds that he gets “bullied more for being Welsh.” This touch of humor amidst adversity is characteristic of the family’s resilient spirit.

 

Despite the challenges, the documentary is ultimately a story of love and acceptance. Caroline and Diane have been together for 25 years at the time of filming, and they even renew their vows in a touching ceremony. Diane eloquently expresses the core of their relationship: “The thing is that there’s been queer folk ever since the year Dart. There’s been transsexuals ever since the year Dart. That’s perfectly natural.” Caroline echoes this sentiment, stating, “I mean, that’s why, that is the reason why I stayed with Diane because I love the person. The person who’s in that body.” “My Dad Diane” explores several broader themes: gender identity, providing insights into the experiences of transgender individuals and their families; family bonds, showcasing how love and understanding can keep a family together through extraordinary circumstances; societal acceptance, highlighting the challenges faced by non-traditional families in gaining acceptance from society; personal growth, portraying each family member’s journey of self-discovery and adaptation with sensitivity; and the intersection of gender identity with religious views and sexuality.

 

“My Dad Diane” is more than just a documentary about a transgender parent. It’s a story of a family’s love, resilience, and their quest for acceptance in a world that often struggles to understand those who are different. Through intimate interviews and day-to-day life footage, the film paints a portrait of a family that, despite its unique circumstances, grapples with universal themes of love, identity, and belonging. As Gareth aptly puts it, “I like my family the way they are.” This simple statement encapsulates the heart of the documentary - a celebration of love, acceptance, and the beauty of being true to oneself, regardless of societal norms.

 

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